hello friends, LGBT and otherwise!
last weekend I attended the wedding of my niece Bethan to her girlfriend of 10 years Vickey. It was an extraordinary occassion. Moving , celebratory, loving, supportive etc etc.
It had a profound effect on me, I made a brief speech at the wedding trying to put a perspective on how it seems like the culmination of an extraordinary journey
I wrote this on my facebook account:
" 44 yrs ago , aged 18, I left my home and family to move to London and university. I was gay which at that time was still illegal if you were under 21. Yesterday my niece Bethan got married to her girlfriend Vickey surrounded by loving families and friends who cheered them to the rafters.
For most people there it was "just" a wonderful wedding, like any other wedding.
But for me it was so much more than that. As I stood and watched, (in tears!), my thoughts were not only in the here and now, but also for the extraordinary journey society has taken in its acceptance of LGBT relationships.
It has been a very long and bumpy ride....... yesterday was a celebration of love, joy and acceptance. it was a wonderful, overwhelming and astonishing day! And I am still crying!"
I was amazed at the response, nearly 100 likes and many comments of support.
It got me thinking about my life as a gay teenager in the late 60's and early 70's and the extraordinary things that have changed in terms of legislation and social attitudes as I become a gay pensioner.
1967 : sexual relations between two consenting adults in private made legal
1970, stonewall riots in new york
1983 : the scourge of Aids
1986: section 28 enacted to stop the "promulagation of the gay lifestyle"
1990's : lowering the age of consent
2005 : civil partnerships allowed
2014: us gay folk can get married!
So I am going to write a memoir, and I want to hear from you.
some of you have known me throughout all of these years, others for only part of it,
So I want to chat to anyone who wants to chat to me, What was I like? , did you know I was gay before I did? How did you know, did I tell you or did you guess? what have you seen on my journey in and out of the closet door?
If you've never met me or heard of me ( more than likely!!) what has been yr experience
I am going to relate my story to music, events, holidays, workplaces.
I am already re-remembering things, but have I remembered correctly, is your version different, are there things you know that I do not know!
I think my moving around from job to job, place to place has been a major part of my journey.
Since I moved from Cardiff aged 18 I've lived and worked in :
Rochester : greenacres boys home
Camberwell greenhouse outreach project
Lincoln Saxon House O&A centre
Putney Working boys hostel
Dover Woodside Boys Community Home
Tunbridge Wells Meadows School
Croydon Knotley Community Home
Walthamstow working at Barnardos Head Office and fostering for Albert Kennedy Trust
Halesowen Barnardos Midlands Regional Office
Dudley 8-18 Family placements
West Bromwich UNISON Branch Secretary , chair of fostering panels
and now, full circle back in Cardiff.
as a gay man I have lived through momentous times, as my mainly heterosexual friends you have often had to live through those times with me . So what was it like? What was I like?
If there are any photos, memories reflections you want to share please get in touch.,
Below is an extraordinary photo, me with my two sisters, my niece and her new wife ...... now who'd have thought that would ever happen 40 yrs ago!
On twitter @brummytaff or email robertjohnwoods@aol.com
Let the fun begin!